Future Spouse...Like a Hiring Manager, Right?

My first blog in over two years! Yikes! A lot has happened in that time. So reading the title of this blog post you're probably like what the heck is this girl talking about. For those of us singles, have you ever felt like trying to find your future spouse is like interviewing with a hiring manager?
I don't know if you're anything like me but I have always been that girl that told every guy that I have ever had a crush on that I liked them. I can almost name all of the guys that I've had crushes on and told them. Actually found a note I wrote to a guy asking him out in high school the other day. But everything I would always get rejected, except that one time....that didn't end well either. Yeah never mind I've gotten rejected every single time. I know what you're thinking, I should know better and if the donts pop into your mind, you're already ahead of me. But for those of us that didn't grow up being educated about how relationships are initiated, the kind of relationships that will land you your future spouse.
I hate when I get a crush on a guy. A crush is like going on a job interview. You do everything you can think of to prepare and set your best foot forward to impress the hiring manager so that you'll land the job. You nail the interview and you're now waiting for the phone call only to find out that someone else got the job.

Finding a future spouse can seem like that at times and it's a disheartening experience that can leave a lot of people jaded and hopeless. But God has wonderful intentions for marriage. if you're like me, stubborn and hard-headed.  You'd think I'd get this after the umpteenth rejection but noooo. It wasn't until a couple of weeks ago but The Lord opened the eyes of my heart to understand that my future spouse is not a hiring manager.  I don't know what's wrong with me and liking white guys who are younger than me. I'm turning into a cougar!!! LOL Turns out this gentleman has a girlfriend. Relationships and jobs, dealing with the what if's when it comes to people in these areas can be really unnerving when you're trying to land one. But what has helped me when it comes to crushes and not let my thoughts get all sorts of crazy is, remembering that God is going to be the one that moves his heart to see (desire) me. God will bring joy in this relationship, He will bring a purpose for the relationship, The Lord will provide the opportunities and the means for both parties to actually establish a relationship that will provide peace and trust in Christ. I won't have a desire to be in control but to relinquish control because God is working this out for my good and His glory. When I reason like this and I have to, cause my mind will go nuts if I don't; I find that it is so much easier to love my brother in Christ and see past the attraction and the initial things that us girls want to make us plan our weddings right away. I find it easier to listen to him, respect him, give God thanks for his obedience and faith in Christ. It helps me gain self-control and confront whether I'm loving him or loving myself. I'm finally at a point where I'm like God you do it, get me out of the way!

When You Fail

Psalm 51:3-4 ESV

For I know my transgressions,

and my sin is ever before me.

Against you, you only, have I sinned

and done what is evil in your sight,

so that you may be justified in your words

and blameless in your judgment.

For a while I've encouraged in my blogs to persevere in sexual purity. What a difficult task it is and I admit, you will fail, maybe once or multiple times, but you will fail.

When David sinned with Bathsheba, immediately he knew who He had sinned against, God. Nothing is more sobering and humbling than when the reality of this hits you like a ton of bricks. It hurts and it hurts deeply.

But nothing is more sweeter than a heart that truly repents from sin. Immediately God does not leave you to fend for yourself. In the most difficult sin area that you struggle with, I tell you when you realize how bad you've hurt him, just as quickly before you can blink, grace and love are right at your door.

Shame wants to tell you to run and hide especially away from God's household but He is stronger and it is in the love of the saints through the power of Christ, His Spirit shows just how much love does cover a multitude of sins.

It is in His grace and love, shame can't even stand because it is that same love displayed through the saints that humbles the heart and allows God to work.

The robbery of stealing something that should be held sacred. I honestly do not know how unbelievers go around being sexually immoral and their hearts aren't being twisted into knots. That's when you realize that you really are His child.

It is going to be a fight to the end with sin, but the victory has already been won, do not lose hope.

Remember:

1. Confess and truly repent of your sin.
2. Christ bore the weight and guilt of your sin, He is advocating for you.
3. Find select people that you trust that will give you solid Biblical counsel to keep you accountable but also to help devise a plan of action to put in place when the temptation arises.
4. Ask yourself what lie am I believing? What do I believe about God? Examine the lie and what God says who He is?
5. You can't save yourself.

2 Corinthians 12:9 ESV

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

This is hope of Christ that rests in you. Be encouraged when you fall.

Any recommendations to help combat sexual temptation would be tremendously welcomed.

Why Pursue Sexual Purity?

"Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God."  2 Corinthians 7:1 (NIV)


What God has done for us through His Son Jesus Christ, we strive for holiness out of reverence for Him. This is not an easy feat because we are imperfect beings and Christ is perfect. We cannot purify ourselves from everything that contaminates our body and spirit as every human being is born with a sinful nature. 


God demands holiness but He knows that we are not holy. The ones that have been born again by Jesus Christ are granted the Holy Spirit. He is the One that battles against our self-pleasing desires.


Teenagers and young adults, you were created by a Wonderful Creator to glorify Him in every fascet of your being. We were born into this world with nothing and we're going to leave taking nothing out of it. God owns everything including you. His desires in your relationships are required, they're not an option. 


Today, as time was spent with a significant other; what thoughts came to mind? Why or why wouldn't want to pursue sexual purity?